Showing posts with label fairy lights. Show all posts
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Wednesday, 3 July 2013

Surviving University: How Much Stuff Can I Fit In My Dad's Car?

Two weeks after returning from university for the summer, I have finally unpacked. At least, I've unpacked my clothes. And my books. I'm just trying not to think about the rest....

During your time at university, you will accumulate a lot of stuff, enough to fill two bedrooms - your university room and your room at home - with more stuff on the side. Living in halls is a step between living at home and complete independence, and it brings a lot of baggage with it - literally! 

For me, buying/acquiring my university clobber was liberating. I felt emotionally ready to move away and try out independent life, so the long afternoon we spent in the IKEA market area, searching for teaspoons and kitchen knives, was surprisingly exiting. Nothing tells you that you've become a grown-up quite like the moment when you realise you're excited about buying a colander. 

In my last year of sixth form, I thought that I'd become relatively independent, and wouldn't have any problems adjusting to living away from my family. I knew how to boil pasta, and could, hypothetically, use the washing-machine - I was sorted! Unfortunately, living alone isn't quite as simple as that. Washing-up doesn't do itself. Clothes become unwearable if you forget to hang them up after tumble-drying them; dust accumulates into thick carpets of grey fluff; a week of 'don't feel like cooking' can easily become a month. It sucks, but part of being independent is making yourself get up before midday on a Saturday to deal with the mountain of washing you've left yourself, or doing a Tesco run for toothpaste and washing-up liquid. (Tesco's own is cheaper than Fairy, by the way.)

I'm not writing this to scare you, if you're about to leave home for the first time. What I really want to tell you is that all this domestic stuff is manageable, and learning to do these things is an achievement. When I was younger my aspirations for the future usually involved becoming some kind of superwoman. I'd be a key person in the fight against poverty, become a missionary or an MP, publish books of poetry which would put me on the shelves in Waterstones (next to Gerald Manley Hopkins), maybe act in a West End show or two, with a few kids and a husband thrown in for good measure... One year into university, I haven't done anything unusual or world changing, but you know what? That doesn't matter. I got stranded in France a few weeks ago when the French Air Control Strikes meant my plane was cancelled. My friends and I managed to get to Toulouse, catch the only plane still flying, a domestic flight to Paris which had been delayed, navigate our way across Paris via the french Metro, catch a eurostar to London, and find a bus service which would take us over a hundred miles across the country in time to move out of our university accommodation for the summer. So whilst I might not have saved the world yet, I'm slowly, slowly becoming a competent adult. And that's something to be proud of. 

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If you're not sure what to buy/take with you, here are some suggestions!

Kitchen Stuff

  • 2 Saucepans, with lid
  • 1 frying pan
  • airtight container 
  • freezer/sandwich bags and plastic clips for sealing packets
  • colander
  • cutlery, including a tablespoon (often required in recipes)
  • vegetable knife
  • small chopping board (look in IKEA. Optional though, you can do this on a plate)
  • Bowls & plates - go for 2, maybe more if you have space.
  • A small selection of mugs/glasses. Theoretically you only need 1 of each, so don't go crazy, especially if you are a natural mug hoarder like me. I have 8 mugs and a porcelain travel mug at uni, and I love them dearly but they take up a huge chunk of my desk... Okay. Back to the list. 
  • Oven tray/dish. These can also be used in grills, but not microwaves. Make sure your bowls/plates are microwavable. 
  • Wooden spoon
  • 'Fish slice' - this is a big, flat metal spoon type thing. You can get right-angled ones for mashing potato, and the normal one is great for cooking meat, chips, or flipping pancakes. 
  • Tin foil & clingfilm
  • Kitchen roll, washing-up liquid, washing up cloths
  • 2 tea-towels
Practical Stuff
  • Check whether your accommodation provides irons, a kettle, or a toaster. If not, you may want to purchase them, but here I recommend waiting until you get to uni, as someone in your flat may have brought something. Most accommodation types do not allow kettles in rooms. 
  • Lamp/fairy lights: Essential for making strip-lit uni digs bearable. 
  • Books and DVDs: Try to pack light, and keep it to the essentials. I wanted to take the entirety of my 200+ book collection to university, but my parents (knowing me!) restricted me to just 12. Arriving home 7 months later with around 50 books, I understood why...
  • A ringbinder, and a hole-punch to go with it. 
  • A see-through pencil case for exams. Try the supermarket or WHSmiths. 
  • A couple of canvas bags or bags-for-life; these will come in handy for shopping, or packing up your excess stuff to go home!
  • If you own a bike, it's worth dropping by Halfords and picking up a few basics. My bike repair kit contains a bike pump, spare inner tube, screwdrivers, and a high-vis jacket. Check your pump works with the type of valve on your bike. I also recommend a D-Lock, as they significantly reduce the risk of your bike being stolen. It is also illegal to cycle on the road without bike lights. I bought my lights and D-lock for £15 from the university, so it's not expensive - and far less expensive then replacing your bike.
  • Insurance. Some accommodation offers insurance, with conditions; some offer it as an extra. Some household insurance deals will partially cover your property. I hate dealing with insurance, and am dreading sorting it out for next year, but as I learnt after getting stuck in France with no travel insurance, it's a must. Endsleigh advertise themselves as 'the student insurance company', but their quotes are quite high, so shop around. 
  • Set of small screwdrivers. Strangely useful .
  • Blu-tack, envelopes, sellotape, push-pins (the type that go into noticeboards). Easy to forget, but all things I used on a weekly basis. Paperchase do some really cute animal pins, if you're that kind of person.
  • A diary. I recommend this for two reasons. Firstly, you're going to be properly organising your own life, and life at university is busy. There are no regular hours, like at school, and if you miss a seminar or a society meeting nobody calls you and asks why you weren't there. Secondly, you're going to have a fabulous year, doing all sorts of weird and interesting things; no two weeks are the same! Keeping a diary with a note of where you've been will be a great keepsake in the future. 
  • Towels and bed linen. Also, check whether your accommodation provides pillows and a duvet; my poor Dad had to drive around Norwich, looking for somewhere to buy bedding, as I'd assumed it would be provided...
  • A couple of 'luxury items'. Whilst you should try and keep your packing minimal, and make reductions where you can (for example, only take clothes appropriate to the season etc), university has to feel like home! A few of small photographs or ornaments will really help make your room feel homely. I had a couple of framed photos, a squishy TARDIS, and some lovely bunting, handmade by a friend for me. I also took a rug and a small cushion from home, but again, check the rules. Rugs were technically banned in our residences, but no-one ever told me off for it...
  • An alarm-clock or radio alarm. There's nothing worse than missing a lecture because your phone died in the night. 
  • A laundry bag - IKEA bags are just the right size! Some friends of mine gave me a tub of small change for the washing machines, which I occasionally added to myself. 
  • Washing up liquid or powder. I recommend liquid tabs, because they're effective and easy to use. And they smell nice. 
  • Coathangers!
It sounds like a lot of stuff, so try and be minimalist where you can, and pack efficiently. I got all of my clothes into a camping rucksack by rolling them up tightly. 

Where to get your stuff
Supermarkets often do 'starting university' sales in late August, or early September, and this can be quiet a cheap way to pick up a few things, like bed linen and kitchen equipment. If you know someone with a Costco card, you could bulk buy a few food staples, but don't go mad - and keep it to non-perishable goods! IKEA, of course, is the king of cheap student living, but before you risk the temptations of the 'Market Area', it's worth asking around family for second hand kitchenware, or other bits and bobs. My kettle, plates, some of my cutlery, and pans where all second-hand or unwanted gifts from my kind family! Don't be embarrassed to ask - they'll be pleased to help you out. 

For books, try www.bookbrain.co.uk - they compare prices on all the big online book retailers to help you find the cheapest way of purchasing your course books. Amazon do a good student discount with the NUS Extra card, which is worth the £12 purchase if you're a regular Amazon shopper. It includes discounts in various restaurants and shops, but many shops will accept your university card for student discounts, so don't feel the NUS card is necessary. 

If you're using public transport to get to university, look into student discounts with bus and travel companies. The 16-25 railcard, which I have , takes 1/3rd off all rail travel, if bought in advance, and comes with free YHA membership. I bought a 3 year railcard for £65, which I think was a good deal for me. National Express coaches also do a student deal, but before committing yourself to it, find out if Megabus run the same route, as they tend to be drastically cheaper. At present I don't have a National Express membership, but it's something I'm considering. Travelling off-peak and buying tickets in advance will help you save money, and is a more pleasant way to travel. 

Food shopping at university can also be very expensive. It's easy to fall into a pattern of regular 'top-up' shopping, picking up oddments from the nearest Tesco Metro, but this is actually the most expensive (and unhealthy!) way to shop. If you can, try and keep this kind of shopping to the bare minimum. My suggestion is that once every month or two you go out to a big store and buy frozen food and non-perishable goods, like dried pasta and rice. It can be hard to buy for one person, so try and buy things that can be frozen or divided; for instance, I buy sliced bread and defrost it as I need it. Buying frozen veg is also a lot cheaper than buying fresh vegetables, although you should try to do this too! 
Meat is also very expensive, and being vegetarian has saved me a lot of money this year. Cheap meat is a false-economy; if you're going to buy meat, buy good quality but not too often, and don't let it go off. Meat can't be refrozen or reheated, so if you're buying something large, divide it up before you freeze it. 

If I think of anything else, I'll add it on - any suggestions welcome :)
J.R. 

Monday, 17 September 2012

A short-ish update (You know me...)

It's now under a week until I leave for university. Facebook and Twitter are humming with university posts. Many of my friends moved in this weekend, so today's speciality has been pictures of beautifully decorated university rooms. I have some plans for my own room: I have two rolls of 'Poetry on the Underground' posters, one of my cosy IKEA rag rugs, and a box of multi-coloured, flower-shaped fairy lights. 

(By the way - where does the phrase 'fairy lights' come from? Is it old? I like it. It makes the fire-risks and all that seem a lot less realistic)

Half of my belongings are now in bags and boxes ready to travel. This has not been an easy process. I am a hoarder. I invest deep stored emotions in everything I won. Throwing things away for me is like being Voldemort and throwing away your Horcruxes. Still, the process proceeds, and this move is becoming more and more real. At the same time, we are preparing to move house as a family, and my long suffering Dad has just painted my new room in the exact specification of red-y orange I demanded, a sort of Heinz tomato soup colour. I have decided that I do not feel at home without my orange walls, so although I shall have to survive without them at university, I'm glad that for at least the next few years there will be somewhere familiar, and orange, for me to return to. For some strange reason, other people do not seem to appreciate the radiance of my orange walls. Each to their own.

So what is, or where is home? Moving to our fifth house, it's a question that's ceased to both me. Around the age of thirteen, and living in my least favourite house, I took to reading with great care the property sections of the newspapers, and grading the houses based on whether I'd live there or not, and preference. My ideal house had at least six bedrooms, looked beautiful, ideally included a study, pool and attic conversion, and sat in the middle of a sprawling landscape garden, stables optional. It was a vindictive, childish way of hinting at my parents that what they'd provided wasn't good enough, and it makes me wince to think back to it. Thirteen is a difficult age. But then we moved to our current house, and I turned fourteen, and stopped reading the property section. The worst thing you can do is long for things you can't have, especially whopping great grade-II listed mansions. 

Our family has two mottoes when it comes to 'home'. Firstly, and most importantly, home is where your family is. Secondly, home is where you make it. It could be a flat in Cornwall, a castle in Yorkshire, a suburban semi in London, but as long as we were all there, safe and sound, it could become home for us. More than that, 'home' isn't the building, or the locality: it's where we find ourselves in each other, where we belong. This makes 'homelessness' worse: not only are you without the physical comfort of a shelter, you loose the sense of belonging attached to shared living and to an extent, property ownership. Alden Nowlan, a wonderful Canadian poet, ends his poem 'He sits down on the floor of a School for the Retarded*' with these wonderful lines: 

'It's what we all want, in the end, to be held, merely to be held, to be kissed (not necessarily with the lips, for every touching is a kind of kiss.)  
Yet, it's what we all want, in the end, not to be worshipped, not to be admired, not to be famous, not to be feared, not even to be loved, but simply to be held.  
She hugs me now, this retarded woman, and I hug her. We are brother and sister, father and daughter, mother and son, husband and wife. We are lovers. We are two human beings huddled together for a little while by the fire in the Ice Age, two thousand years ago.'

These lines never fail to bring me reassurance and comfort. If you're interested in reading the full poem, I found it online here. The Selected Poems of Alden Nowlan was one of the first poetry books I ever bought myself, so it's very dear to my heart :') 

So my physical home is changing drastically, splitting into my university home and my 'base', with my family, but I'm not loosing anything. In fact, I think I'm gaining more than I'll miss. I really love my home here, in my little town, but not one but two new homes offers me the chance for a complete, fresh start. The chance to live the adult life I've been dreaming of and become the person I aspire to be, starting again with a clean slate. Besides which, I am completely in love with Norwich, and I can't wait to live there. The first time I stepped onto the campus I had an instinctual feeling that this was where I am meant to be, and God's been so good to me, guiding me this far. I honestly doubted I'd get there, but I shouldn't have. He's got me under his wing. I think I'll be okay. 

So next time I update this blog - unless I get really bored during the rest of the week - I will be somewhere new! I love the idea of a new landscape and a different setting to work in, with new inspirations, a different atmosphere. (I promise not to use the word 'new' again now, okay!) 

As always, thank you for your patience, your time, and your forgiveness for my enthusiasm for the semi-colon, hyphen, and bracket. 

Until then, God bless.
J.R. x 


* Retarded - This was written in 1982, so no offence meant.